"The measure of the journey is not in the lifespan but in the wingspan."
~Laura Young
What are my principles, and how do they impact my life?
I'm not seeing much of principled behavior in the world these days.
Does it matter to anyone?
There are so many ways to go as I sit to write this post. I don't want to try to 'sell' you my candidate. (Well, I'd LIKE to, but I prefer to hold on to the thought that you are thoughtful, relatively intelligent and self-informed, and therefore capable of making a thoughtful choice of your own.)
But I'm not sure anymore.
It seems to me that we have traded our basic values for the ability to create revenue at the expense of others.
I believe that most of us don't even know what values we hold, or even how to think about the subject. We've created all the laws AND all the loopholes that have led us to where we are right now. And I believe that the level to which you believe you are NOT responsible, is just a measure of your denial.
So what the hell does THAT mean? I'm not sure about that, either.
I'm sure it has to do with making decisions about my values. Here's a very basic one I learned from my former coach, Laura (quoted above):
Will I add to the love in the world; or will I add to the hate in the world?
And, yes; I DO think that is an either/or question. Other questions include:
- Must I seek to blame? When? Why?
- What do I understand about Love - all kinds - and what am I willing to do, say, be to support my conclusions?
- What does honesty mean to me, and what goes into the decision to be honest or not honest? When I choose dishonesty, what are the costs and to whom?
- What are my responsibilities for the behavior of others, and when/how do I act upon them?
- What things are private (if any) and therefore irrelevant to others?
- When (if ever) is what you think of me important?
- How often do I revisit these questions, adding others or subtracting some?
When I've asked myself these questions (and others) and come to some conclusions, then I write my own code of conduct. And these days, I'm really torn in several directions.
There is much to be said for the argument that we 'get what we deserve in this world'. The theory that 'what we focus our attention on gets bigger' is working especially well for those who want to persuade us through fear. There are simply TONS of things on television, radio, and other media outlets, that are perfect illustrations of WHO WE HAVE COME TO BE as human animals on this planet.
I don't want to look like that model.
All I know to do is the best that I can. And for me, that means knowing what I value, learning that I can choose to be involved in many different ways, and behaving with courage now that I know what my principles are. What is most scary to me these days is what I see as a closed-minded, rigid adherence to a set of 'guidelines' that have bypassed the individual consideration
...oops; gotta go...
http://www.newser.com/story/38842/parker-gets-the-dixie-chick-treatment-after-dissing-palin.html
This article illustrates some of the fanaticism I see all over this campaign. But more importantly, I see this everywhere these days: in the (extreme) need to blame someone (for ANYthing), in road rage, in the behaviors of some friends & neighbors & family.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/frank-schaeffer/obama-will-be-one-of-the_b_132843.html
This link goes to an excellent piece of writing that expresses something of what I feel about Obama & this election, and these times.