February 14, 2020 - Questions inspired by a National Geographic issue on Women

Five were present for our Valentine's Day meeting: Kate H., Angela, Revin, Nona, and I. We had brief updates from Nona regarding her decisions about her aunt. Verna will be coming to live with Nona and Kim in the next few weeks. We'll get to exercise our Holding Space talents for them over time, whether they need our physical presence or not. And we acknowledged that we are building this... Read more →

Why it’s So Tempting to Build Walls and Shut People Out (and what to do instead)

The article linked here adds to our conversation regarding 'to add or not to add' a new member or two and comes from TED.com The intro begins like this: "Why do humans often want to create a world of “us” vs. “them”? And what can we do about this unhelpful, often damaging, yet somehow reassuring instinct? Psychiatrist Robert Waldinger has some useful advice." The article seems important to me because... Read more →

January 24, 2020 - Holding Space

Seven of us were present this week. As frequently happens, I was engaged in the conversation and took no notes! mea culpa. In our meeting, NE facilitated a discussion on Holding Space. We didn't all have an idea of just what that means, and some of us interpret it a little bit differently. But I think that by the end of the day we agreed that we do, indeed, hold... Read more →

The Lost Words Blessing

Gorgeous harmony; beautiful words.... The lyrics: "Enter the wild with care, my love And speak the things you see Let new names take and root and thrive and grow And even as you travel far from heather, crag and river May you like the little fisher, set the stream alight with glitter May you enter now as otter without falter into water Look to the sky with care, my love... Read more →

The Case for Adding New & Younger Members

All of you know that I continue to hope for a larger number of women in our Salon. Much of that hope is based on reasons I've stated before, one being having a congenial number present when some of us are otherwise engaged, whether it be travel or illness, etc. Another reason, and perhaps a better one, stems from my reading about Co-housing and what makes them work. Multi-generational groups... Read more →

Who's going to write your obituary?

Information for this post came from this Washington Post article linked to Facebook. Obituaries seem almost a thing of the past. And they can get really expensive, really fast. Most newspapers these days might give you a column inch for free, maybe, but you won't get space for any real information. If you type "How to Write an Obituary" into any search engine, you'll get a boatload of articles. Blogger,... Read more →

December 13, 2019 ~ Supplements +

Ten of us were present yesterday; that included our guest, Kim. At the start of the meeting, we reviewed our 'Rules' and had her introduce herself to us. LB was the only one who did not already know her, at least casually. I called for any Leftovers but we had none. Then we turned the conversation over to Irma who facilitated our discussion on Supplements. Her primary resource was Consumer... Read more →

November 22, 2019 ~ no specific topic ~ energy wk contacts

There were 7 of us present today. In Leftovers, we accepted Irma's emailed offer to facilitate our next discussion on The Consumer Reports issue on Supplements. We have no specific topic today so I brought up December dates, first. We voted to meet on the 13th, and NOT to Meet on the 27th of December. Mel suggested variations on the subject of loss as we age: of people and abilities... Read more →

The Cure for Toxic Positivity

The Cure for Toxic Positivity is an article by Rebecca Renner, a journalist and fiction writer who's bylines include the Washington Post, Paris Review, and Tin House. I've wondered if I am just naturally contrary partly because my mind leaps to "evaluate" words, sentences & thoughts for their energy content. And because I had not seen/heard anyone talking about too much positivity. This article, then, was encouraging. Many commenters felt... Read more →

Another First

Another First I see it as your foot skips over, its tail whisks and snaps as it rushes into the safety of the brush. It’s our second walk in the forest this week he and I. Happiness pours into my soul knowing he wants to spend more time with me! "Stop!" I say a little too hurriedly, excited about our find, never really knowing when a sighting will take place.... Read more →

November 8, 2019 ~ Book Discussion: "...And a Time to Die

In old business, LB suggested that we call this section "Leftovers". We liked that, so now we have No old business; only Leftovers. There were 8 of us present today. Most of us have now seen the email from NH, who has withdrawn from our group. I will miss her presence and her energy in this group. In Leftovers, we decided to table any conversation about adding new members for... Read more →

October 25, 2019 ~ Identity Politics

There were 5 of us here today. I took NO notes, so this "minutes" article will be extremely short! We agreed that labels can sometimes be helpful in making generalizations, or in our earlier years as we were learning about who we are and finding our tribes. And we agreed that more often than not, all these labels and all this "political correctness" separats us and increass the divide between... Read more →

Identity Politics - Opinions and links

Identity Politics is the current buzz phrase for Labels. Like we need MORE of those. And yet, we use them all the time. They can help us find our tribe, I suppose; they can help define a search if you're looking for a forum online - say, RV travel, as an example. Or Gay, if you're on a dating site and want to limit the responses. But more and more,... Read more →

October 11, 2019 ~ More on enlarging group; Vaccines; topics; Mental Health

Six of us were present for this meeting. In Old Business we continued our discussion on adding members. Two new points were made, neither of which I had ever considered. LB told us that there would/could come a point at which the size of the group alone could cause her to self-censor. She appreciates the intimacy we now have and is concerned that too large a group could lose that... Read more →

"How Contemporary American Medicine is Testing Us to Death"

This is the subtitle of an article by Barbara Ehrenreich, published on April 9, 2019. I like her theory a little more every day... (Reprinting here in its entirety; no copyright infringement intended. This is solely the work of the author.) Barbara Ehrenreich: Why I’m Giving Up on Preventative Care In the last few years I have given up on the many medical measures—cancer screenings, annual exams, Pap smears, for... Read more →


Delphi Is there a magnet drawing me to you? I walked down the hill to the Tholos, rounded a corner and there you were Tears flowed unchecked down my cheeks Even though I was still asleep at that first encounter, my spirit knew you My soul remembered Tears of recognition, tears of joy came unbidden How my soul rejoiced! Memories of times past, of sacred rituals floated at the edge... Read more →

Where I'm From

Where I’m From I’m from creators and tinkerers. I’m from dilettantes and demigods. I’m from demolitionists and destroyers. I’m from musicians and mentalists. I’m from stoics and strangers. I’m from teachers and hoarders. I’m from churches that nourish, and withhold. I’m from perfectionism, taught without tenderness. I’m from people who do what they are told. I’m from people who won’t. I‘m from landowners. I’m from settlers, and from the unsettled;... Read more →

September 27, 2019 ~ "Bright Minds"

...and more Newbies discussions. It seems that our/my interest in growing this group is giving us quite a bit of fodder for conversation, and possibly some growth of our/my own. I do find that I am looking a little deeper into just what 'connection' means to me and how and by whom that might be facilitated. One idea about our Social Event, should we have one: that we make it... Read more →

Ending it Well: Missives from Inside the Death Wellness Movement

"The death wellness movement is about facing hard choices openly and mindfully. For author Leslie Krongold, this has been a very personal exploration." This article by Leslie Krongold, Ed.P, was published in August of this year, and is pertinent to many of the things we talk about withing our group. The article was suggested by Jessica in a comment on another post. Ms. Krongold is writing about her own journey... Read more →

HBO's "Alternate Endings" explores 6 the of the new ways to die in America.

This article/review is relatively short and quite interesting. The documentary follows Dick Shannon, his wife and family, and 5 other families of people making preparations for their approaching deaths. Do you know what you want your death to look like? Do you know what's possible? Care to? Read more →

"I'm Old Enough to Die"

This article is subtitled: "The Market for Wellness is more about Capitalism Than Prolonging Life" The material comes from a book called Natural Causes, by Barbara Ehrenreich. The article, itself, was written by Derek Beres. He's a fan of fat-shaming, though, so if you want to know more about him, you'll have to dig it out yourself. Won't be hard! :) A summary of the book from her website says,... Read more →

The Lessons of Asymmetry

A TGB Reader Story. (housekeeping note: this is 2 links; one to the TGB Home page, and one to the story specifically.) Ronni Bennett's readers are invited to submit their own stories to her blog for publication. This one is by Adele Frances. This was the quote that began her story: “There is little meaning in making a fuss. There is nothing else to do but say good-bye to the... Read more →

Ashes to Ashes, Stardust to Stardust

"Delivering cremated remains to the stratosphere joins a new list of ways to memorialize the dead." This is a light, slightly humorous, article about the new options to have your (or "your loved ones") cremains blasted into space. Well, not really space; just 100,000 ft. up into the stratosphere. Sooner or later, you'll fall back to earth. ..in little rain drops or ice crystals according to the article. Not much... Read more →

Write Your Way to Emotional Resilience

Want to Be Emotionally Resilient? Science says do this From the article: "Do you worry a lot? Sometimes over things you absolutely can't control, so that worrying about them serves no practical purpose? Do you think you worry too much? Do you worry that all this worrying may not be good for you?" This article is about writing your worries. Maybe not daily, with no real rules, and with no... Read more →

September 13, 2019 ~ reading what we wrote - newbies

In old business we continued the discussion on how to assimilate new members. We do agree that we would like to grow a bit more, but we also have taken note of the increasing level of intimacy that exists in the group as it is now. We think that a social event outside of a Salon meeting might be a good way to accomplish this purpose, by letting newbies and... Read more →

Memoir ~ an article by Kate H.

Writing MEMOIR I don’t want to write memoir to defend myself. After 25 years I shouldn’t need to. Like the saying goes Don’t explain; your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it. But maybe I do need to. Not because I’m sorry or because I want to change minds or even because I need to convince myself. I know to my core it was the most amazing... Read more →

August 23, 2019 ~ Welcome Angie; Writing Memoirs; Other types of writing

We had 7 of us present for the meeting yesterday. We are happy to welcome Ang to the group; we spent a little time on introductions, and on covering a few of our 'rules' for her. We also spent time on "Old" business, but I made no notes on that. Among things that came up, I remember suggesting that we have another social event; maybe the nerf ball battle opportunity... Read more →

August 9, 2019 ~ Happy Healthy Dead

Short minutes for today! NE facilitated the discussion on Happy Healthy Dead. Some of her information comes from a book called Goddesses Never Age, by Christiane Northrup, M.D. I like this quote that appeared on her page when I found the link under her name: "True health is only possible when we understand the unity of our minds, emotions, spirits, and physical bodies and stop striving for perfection.” This theory... Read more →

July 26, 2019 ~ Discussing Newbies; Balance

In old business, we discussed Rules; whether & how to add more women; and confidentiality as it applies to the blog. Each member of the group answered several questions (in an email) about these specific things. Each member let me know, as acting recording secretary, how they want to be mentioned in the blog. All posts have been edited to accommodate these requests. We confirmed our Rules, and I have... Read more →

The Marvelous Emily Levine

I found Emily on TED Talks. She is linked on our "Links.." page. But this is a different different one and includes her voice reading a favorite poem called "You Can't Have It All...but There is This" by Barbara Ras. I hope you enjoy it. The poem is embedded in the article which comes from a blog authored by one of Emily's friends and titled Brain Pickings. Here's a direct... Read more →

July 12, 2019 ~ The Dinner and a Show

What a fun event. I suspect we'll do this, and other social things more often. One I've thought of is the Ropes Course in town! Or an afternoon during which we explore our trust issues with a series of games...? We watched Antonia's Line together, then discussed our thoughts about it over dinner. I thoroughly enjoyed both. We agreed that Antonia exemplified some of our own ideas of what makes... Read more →

Morning Routines; Do you have one?

I just came across this article from Insight Timer, an app I use and recommend. The app is available from both Google Play and in Apple's App Store. We have mentioned ritual or Practice or routines a time or two. This article explains some of the reasons that Morning Routines might be very useful and what is going on in our bodies when we first wake. Think cortisol and Circadian... Read more →

Can Digital Games Enhance Mobility and Social Interaction?

So it would seem. Check out Sophia's story. (reprinted here; the linked version includes photos and links to a few other stories you may find interesting.) "Over the first weeks of July 2016, a strange phenomenon started to unfold in many parts of the world. A mobile game went viral. Streets in Barcelona, Melbourne, Singapore and New York began to fill with hordes digital wayfaring as part of the augmented... Read more →

June 28, 2019 ~ Antonia's Line; Sleep; & Euthanasia

We did not make quorum for this meeting, but since we never established any guidelines for such stuff, we just carried on. Made decisions and everything! The business part of the meeting included talking about the film Antonia's Line that we will watch at our next meeting on July 12, 2019. As a group, we had not really thought through the idea of watching a film and trying to discuss... Read more →

Sing the Water Song

This doesn't really have anything to do with our Salon, per se, I just really like it. And think that you might, too. The settings won't allow me to embed it here, but you can see it on Vimeo. Sing the Water Song from Sing The Water Song on Vimeo. Read more →

NPR and Elderhood, a new book.

A Clearer Map For Aging: 'Elderhood' Shows How Geriatricians Help Seniors Thrive June 17, 20191:50 PM ET Heard on Fresh Air (link to podcast of interview) "Dr. Louise Aronson says the U.S. doesn't have nearly enough geriatricians — physicians devoted to the health and care of older people: "There may be maybe six or seven thousand geriatricians," she says. "Compare that to the membership of the pediatric society, which is... Read more →

"The Pinnacle of Adaptation"

Excerpts: "Keeping a human body upright and moving is a spectacular feat of coordination and reaction under any circumstances. Doing so in the ninth decade of life magnifies rather than diminishes the beauty of this achievement." "It is true that the second half of life includes experiences related to loss, but it is also true that elderhood is not limited to these things. As we age, we encounter an unexpected... Read more →

One more I can't resist - 90 year old Swing Dancer!

90 year old Hollywood Swing Dance legend Jean Veloz dancing with Lindy/ Swing dance instructor Steve Conrad of the Arizona LIndy Hop Society at FatCat Ballroom in Phoenix, AZ Music by Solomon Douglas. Full disclosure: Ms. Veloz danced all her life, much of it professionally. I found this link to notice of her 95th birthday, which includes links to some of her much older material. Read more →

We're Never TOO Old!!!

From a famous Older, here's Willie Nelson's latest effort, published on Youtube only a month ago. He's 86 years old now. Some horse lovers and maybe some old women will appreciate this particular song. Ride Me Back Home: And check out this one, published just Last Week. Hear an Older sing about the passage of time in Come On Time: Read more →

Great Depression Cooking from Clara Cannucciari

Clara is dead now. But she was a cool old woman who started posting videos to Youtube 12 years ago. She's funny, and tells stories throughout the cooking process. Clara Cannucciari: 98 year old cook, author and great grandmother, Clara, recounts her childhood during the Great Depression as she prepares meals from the era. Learn how to make simple yet delicious dishes while listening to stories from the Great Depression.... Read more →